Crossdressers – Welcome Members, or BDSM Outcasts?

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October 30, 2012 at 12:52 pm  •  Posted in Crossdressing, Mistress Daimyo: UNLEASHED by  •  2 Comments

 

Crossdressers: they are misunderstood by the non-kinky community, and yet are they truly welcome in the BDSM community?  Too many times, I’ve been at an event and seen these men all dressed up and made up – standing around awkwardly, sipping a drink, not sure where or how to stand. Crossdressing is recognized as a legitimate section of the BDSM world, but heterosexual men – who love dressing as women – don’t seem to truly have a place.

Why is that?  Why is such a recognizable section of the BDSM community left to appear as though they are barely tolerated visitors?  It’s because a crossdresser isn’t necessarily into S/m or D/s – he can be a fetishist, and ONLY  a fetishist.  And any time anyone is only into ONE thing – it’s harder to find a place in the kink community.  Drag queens may be vital part of the queer community, but crossdressers always seem a bit lost…

So what can we do about that?  How do we create an environment where the crossdressers have a home?  Here are some suggestions about how to turn this problem around:

  • Set up a “ladies” section – for ladies and “ladies” only.  A little section with lace tablecloths, etc.  Make it pretty!  Make it feminine – these boys can’t get enough of it.  Pink, lace, satin, pillows – you name it, they’ll love it.
  • Arrange a formal tea service.  I’m positive that a sissy or two would be thrilled to don their maid uniform to serve tea in the “Ladies” section.
  • Arrange to have little discussions for the evening – or even tutorials on wardrobe, make-up, hair, posture, walking in heels, etc.
  • Have mirrors available so they can admire themselves and fix their lipstick.

Not only will they have a fabulous time, it will create a sense of a little community, within the community.  AND – the extra bonus – heterosexual women who are comfortable with hetero men in dresses may well join in!  Creativity can go a LONG way, and I’m certain that these gentlemen would happily get involved with organizing, decor and host/essing.    Sexy fun for all involved, and that air of awkwardness is removed from the rest of the party.  EVERYBODY wins.

Consider this more than a suggestion, Vancouver: I am throwing down the gauntlet.

We are creative people!  There a problems in our community, and they are opportunities to make things better, greater, AMAZING.  If we come together and invest a little energy, we can create parties that are more profitable, more accessible, and more exciting for all who attend. 

Everyone goes to events WANTING to be appreciated, (and find some sexy fun/trouble to get into), and the crossdressers are no different.  Now, my only question is – who’s going to pick up the gauntlet first?  Who’s going to get excited about the possibilities?  Who’s going to get on the phone/internet and start making it REAL?  The community… or some motivated crossdressers?

2 Comments

  1. LeighaHisssyFitt / May 9, 2014 at 9:11 am / Reply

    I Would Lovve to see this happen…..;) !….xxxoooo Leigha

    • Christy / September 23, 2015 at 9:02 pm / Reply

      Me too! xo

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