Comments for Erotic Vancouver http://eroticvancouver.com Educated views and erotic event listings in Vancouver Sun, 06 May 2012 18:34:19 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Hot Sexy Events: April 30 – May 6 by Emma http://eroticvancouver.com/hot-sexy-events-april-30-may-6#comment-230 Emma Sun, 06 May 2012 18:34:19 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=633#comment-230 This is a great resource, thanks! But I wonder if there's a way to combine this effort with the Goole Calendars over at Poly Events All Over (https://sites.google.com/site/polyeventsallover/british-columbia)? They have poly calendars for Vancouver, Victoria and Nanaimo, and also host the calendar for Victoria's SPARC (Sex-Positive Art and Resource Centre). Perhaps you could create a Google calendar for non-poly sex-positive events, and it could be added there as well as embedded here? That way people using GCal could also subscribe to it. This is a great resource, thanks! But I wonder if there’s a way to combine this effort with the Goole Calendars over at Poly Events All Over (https://sites.google.com/site/polyeventsallover/british-columbia)?

They have poly calendars for Vancouver, Victoria and Nanaimo, and also host the calendar for Victoria’s SPARC (Sex-Positive Art and Resource Centre). Perhaps you could create a Google calendar for non-poly sex-positive events, and it could be added there as well as embedded here? That way people using GCal could also subscribe to it.

]]> Comment on Hot Sexy Events: April 30 – May 6 by !Kona http://eroticvancouver.com/hot-sexy-events-april-30-may-6#comment-206 !Kona Tue, 01 May 2012 06:45:31 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=633#comment-206 Don't forget that the fabulous Felie Shays is in town teaching classes the same day as the MVK party. She's known up and down our coast and on the far one to queers of all descriptions. Imagine a fierce femme top in skin tight jeans, heels and wicked right arm that would unsettle any butch willing to engage. YUMMY. Rough Sex: Immediate Gratification (https://www.facebook.com/events/102728089862057/) starts at 1pm and her Anal play workshop (not to be missed) follows. Good times! Don’t forget that the fabulous Felie Shays is in town teaching classes the same day as the MVK party. She’s known up and down our coast and on the far one to queers of all descriptions. Imagine a fierce femme top in skin tight jeans, heels and wicked right arm that would unsettle any butch willing to engage. YUMMY. Rough Sex: Immediate Gratification (https://www.facebook.com/events/102728089862057/) starts at 1pm and her Anal play workshop (not to be missed) follows. Good times!

]]> Comment on Have you heard the news? by Stigmata http://eroticvancouver.com/have-you-heard-the-news#comment-177 Stigmata Wed, 25 Apr 2012 09:31:24 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=104#comment-177 Not surprising to find a lack of coverage of healthy sexuality in mainstream media. This media coverage bias reflects our predominantly sex negative culture. How refreshing to find your very sex positive website. Not surprising to find a lack of coverage of healthy sexuality in mainstream media. This media coverage bias reflects our predominantly sex negative culture. How refreshing to find your very sex positive website.

]]> Comment on Opinion: Sex as sport, and that’s perfectly okay by Sarah http://eroticvancouver.com/opinion-sex-as-sport-and-thats-perfectly-okay#comment-124 Sarah Sun, 25 Mar 2012 20:42:03 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=576#comment-124 I'm very surprised about the advice as well. However, from my understanding on HPV, people are supposed to assume that the person they are sleeping with has HPV already. And then hope that their immune system is strong enough to fight whatever strain they get. However, if someone knows they have it, then I think they should disclose this. I don't have HPV and have been monogamous for 8 years. If I decided to sleep with someone I would want them to tell me they have HPV, and yes, that would change my mind about whether I sleep with them or not (I would not sleep with them knowing they have HPV). I don't want to get HPV, specifically because I'm not sure that my immune system could clear the virus right now, as my health is not 100% at the moment. Full disclosure is always best. How would that person feel if their next partner contracted HPV from them and it happened to be the strain that causes cancer (the vaccine is not 100% effective in all cases) and their new partner gets cancer? It would be very easy to pinpoint who gave it to them, especially if the person who got cancer had been monogamous for many years. I’m very surprised about the advice as well. However, from my understanding on HPV, people are supposed to assume that the person they are sleeping with has HPV already. And then hope that their immune system is strong enough to fight whatever strain they get.

However, if someone knows they have it, then I think they should disclose this. I don’t have HPV and have been monogamous for 8 years. If I decided to sleep with someone I would want them to tell me they have HPV, and yes, that would change my mind about whether I sleep with them or not (I would not sleep with them knowing they have HPV). I don’t want to get HPV, specifically because I’m not sure that my immune system could clear the virus right now, as my health is not 100% at the moment.

Full disclosure is always best. How would that person feel if their next partner contracted HPV from them and it happened to be the strain that causes cancer (the vaccine is not 100% effective in all cases) and their new partner gets cancer? It would be very easy to pinpoint who gave it to them, especially if the person who got cancer had been monogamous for many years.

]]> Comment on Opinion: Sex as sport, and that’s perfectly okay by Ziv http://eroticvancouver.com/opinion-sex-as-sport-and-thats-perfectly-okay#comment-121 Ziv Fri, 23 Mar 2012 16:02:58 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=576#comment-121 As Ryan said, I too am shocked that a health care provider should council a person to refrain from disclosing an STD. I am curious if you tore her a new asshole over thinking that that is acceptable behaviour. As Ryan said, I too am shocked that a health care provider should council a person to refrain from disclosing an STD.

I am curious if you tore her a new asshole over thinking that that is acceptable behaviour.

]]> Comment on Opinion: Sex as sport, and that’s perfectly okay by Katie http://eroticvancouver.com/opinion-sex-as-sport-and-thats-perfectly-okay#comment-120 Katie Fri, 23 Mar 2012 15:31:20 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=576#comment-120 Ryan, the only way to prevent the transmission of HPV is to not have sex. Even condoms don't protect you. On the plus side, there are 100 strains of HPV--40 that affect the genitals--and most of them are benign. It's the 4-7 that cause cervical cancer and genital warts that you have to worry about. Ryan,

the only way to prevent the transmission of HPV is to not have sex. Even condoms don’t protect you. On the plus side, there are 100 strains of HPV–40 that affect the genitals–and most of them are benign. It’s the 4-7 that cause cervical cancer and genital warts that you have to worry about.

]]> Comment on Opinion: Sex as sport, and that’s perfectly okay by Ryan http://eroticvancouver.com/opinion-sex-as-sport-and-thats-perfectly-okay#comment-117 Ryan Fri, 23 Mar 2012 06:33:13 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=576#comment-117 I think it is terrible that health care professionals down play the need to disclose... even if 70 percent of adults have HPV... that is 30 percent that are clean... I would like to think that we should be trying to increase the number of non-HPV carriers. I like the parallels that you have drawn.... fascinating... and true! Great article. :) I think it is terrible that health care professionals down play the need to disclose… even if 70 percent of adults have HPV… that is 30 percent that are clean… I would like to think that we should be trying to increase the number of non-HPV carriers.

I like the parallels that you have drawn…. fascinating… and true!

Great article. :)

]]> Comment on Opinion: Sex as sport, and that’s perfectly okay by Gregarious http://eroticvancouver.com/opinion-sex-as-sport-and-thats-perfectly-okay#comment-116 Gregarious Fri, 23 Mar 2012 00:41:28 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=576#comment-116 In a city so taken by hockey, what a great comparison to draw, and a great ad to go with it! As I've seen much more how things work in Berlin, being risk aware and consential has taken on even more meaning into wider reaches of life. There isn't the same judgement there than here. Or that I don't understand the judgements yet, but I don't think so :-) Whether it is skin cancer, broken ankle or HIV, we need more compasion for the unique and complex history of each person. No one lives sqeeky clean in every way, and if they do, they mostly live to regret it, and have different issues with health and happiness. In a city so taken by hockey, what a great comparison to draw, and a great ad to go with it! As I’ve seen much more how things work in Berlin, being risk aware and consential has taken on even more meaning into wider reaches of life. There isn’t the same judgement there than here. Or that I don’t understand the judgements yet, but I don’t think so :-)

Whether it is skin cancer, broken ankle or HIV, we need more compasion for the unique and complex history of each person. No one lives sqeeky clean in every way, and if they do, they mostly live to regret it, and have different issues with health and happiness.

]]> Comment on An Open Letter To Parents’ Voice: Stop the Bullying by Miriam http://eroticvancouver.com/an-open-letter-to-parents-voice-stop-the-bullying#comment-94 Miriam Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:25:58 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=500#comment-94 When I was in school, eiefdrfnt was bad, conformity ruled. Most of the male students I went to school with had a philosophy that if you were a guy and you danced you were gay. Bullying was a natural part of life and NO ONE did anything more than tell me to ignore them. My own brother use to call me gay boy and worse all the time. The ironic thing is that at a very young age, 3rd grade, I knew that I was straight. The problem was I did not act macho enough for the other boys. Oh sure girls liked that I was more understanding but boys saw this as a weakness and the bullying was horrendous. IT DOES GET BETTER! Now I work in the NYC school system. Each year I am responsible for the Anti Bullying bulletin board at my school and teach the Respect for All component to my students. I have vowed that I will be a voice for ANY student who is victimized in my school and I feel it is truly a safe space. While I cannot change the way some of my students feel about certain issues, I can change how they act on those feelings. I hope that my small part in this collective called life has helped at least one student. When I was in school, eiefdrfnt was bad, conformity ruled. Most of the male students I went to school with had a philosophy that if you were a guy and you danced you were gay. Bullying was a natural part of life and NO ONE did anything more than tell me to ignore them. My own brother use to call me gay boy and worse all the time. The ironic thing is that at a very young age, 3rd grade, I knew that I was straight. The problem was I did not act macho enough for the other boys. Oh sure girls liked that I was more understanding but boys saw this as a weakness and the bullying was horrendous. IT DOES GET BETTER! Now I work in the NYC school system. Each year I am responsible for the Anti Bullying bulletin board at my school and teach the Respect for All component to my students. I have vowed that I will be a voice for ANY student who is victimized in my school and I feel it is truly a safe space. While I cannot change the way some of my students feel about certain issues, I can change how they act on those feelings. I hope that my small part in this collective called life has helped at least one student.

]]> Comment on U.S. States Making Sex Toys Safer by Leigh Resnikoff http://eroticvancouver.com/u-s-states-making-sex-toys-safer#comment-78 Leigh Resnikoff Mon, 05 Mar 2012 11:51:57 +0000 http://eroticvancouver.com/?p=280#comment-78 It's possible that you might be having an allergic reaction to the rubber of the toy. Stop masturbating for a few days and see if the pain goes away when you insert your fingers. If it does, then try using the toy covered in a condom so that you aren't being touched by the rubber material of the toy. If you can use it with a condom without pain, then you can safely assume that the rubber was giving you an allergic reaction. If the pain does not go away after you stop using the toy for a week, then you should see your doctor in case something else is going on. Good luck! It’s possible that you might be having an allergic reaction to the rubber of the toy. Stop masturbating for a few days and see if the pain goes away when you insert your fingers. If it does, then try using the toy covered in a condom so that you aren’t being touched by the rubber material of the toy. If you can use it with a condom without pain, then you can safely assume that the rubber was giving you an allergic reaction. If the pain does not go away after you stop using the toy for a week, then you should see your doctor in case something else is going on. Good luck!

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