Be It Now

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June 26, 2014 at 1:23 pm  •  Posted in Freedom of Expression, GLBTQ by  •  0 Comments

This is a rant
against the hands that reach out to accept and place manacles instead.
This is a rant
against the judgements we pass and the assumptions we make when we see people walking down the street: body parts, pieces, genitals…things.
This is a rant
against the media fixation on appearance, their ownership of our bodies, our hearts and our sexual organs.
And this is a rant
for the unsure, the malleable, the strong but misguided, thinking embracing stereotypes is reclaiming an identity that was never needed to start with.

It’s a new world
where same can love same without fear–unless they want more than one partner or to physically display their love in public places…or be safe in their own neighbourhood.
It’s a new world
where different can love different without fear–unless they want to discuss equal treatment and safety or not be interviewed with genitalia-questions first…or not be desexualised as the safe alternative to ‘real sex’.
It’s a new world
where gay men are a straight girl’s best friends. Gay men decorate, elaborate, deviate–by being different from straight boyfriends. Just like a sister, really. Not really a man.
It’s a new world
where the perfect queer life waits just as soon as we too are rid of that extra body hair, that extra ten pounds–any extra special bit of ‘us’.
It’s a new world
where same-sex celebrities date, marry…even love each other. If they’re hot. If they’re sexy. If they match Hollywood’s ideals just as closely as straights.
Yeah, it’s a new world,
that’s just like the old one.

Question everything.
Do they want you? Need you? Are you good enough? Hot enough?
Question everything.
Do you look queer? Act queer? Do they look queer? Do they act queer?
Question everything.
Worry that you’re too femme, too “passable”…and fear the male attention that brings.
Question everything.
Don’t be who you want to be, no, be who they want you to be—the bitch, the butch, the babe.

“It’s okay to be gay”
they say. Properly wed. Properly two to a bed. Proper and, apparently, no more head.
It’s okay to be gay
if you go to work each morning and throw dinner parties and worry about mortgages—and never, never talk to “normal” people about ‘gay troubles’: bashing, trashing, infections and AIDS.
It’s okay to be gay
if you’re flaming and swish—your bff is a cis-girl, you love musicals, makeovers, making jokes—and don’t mention poppers, bathhouses, bareback and sex!

Oh, sex!

It’s okay to be gay
if you’re not, really. If you only come in quiet on your own, and never fuck—never get dirty close.
It’s okay to be gay
unless you’re not hetero-comfortable and macho, or ridiculously fun and girly.
It’s okay to be gay
if you fit in. You can be different if you prove you’re still like everyone else.

Face forward, please.
Fight for a future where gender stereotypes are as abhorred as straight assumptions. Ditch their labels and expectations.
Face forward!
Face to when any gender touching is no better nor worse than a straight couple’s kiss. Respect goes all ways.
Face forward to be,
not what ‘they’ expect, maybe reject, but be what you can do, let the real you shine through.
Face forward,
so you can turn your back on the media. Turn away from the roles you’ve been given and live who you are. How you are. Oh, love, you are. You ARE!

So be it…now.

–A

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